So, when someone goes out of their way to give you money, whether it be for your birthday or a holiday, make sure that you reach out back out and . My friend met her in her class since we were in different one, and was introduced to her. Make it a boundary. Ive never felt this way about anyone before and I think I might be in love with her. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. I love Z to death, she's the best and i miss her a lot, she's awesome, one of the best people i know and i wouldn't want to loose her. He messes with you, you mess with him. tell him how you feel with confidence and degrade him. If you aren't sure, take another breath and feel it enter your stomach. It is not the deciding factor, but it does help the moderators get a feel on how receptive this community is to a post. Find that reason and reevaluate. Ive told him that I we need more obvious boundaries but when he gets mad thats out the window. Say he talked shit about another person in the group. So the guys I'm hanging out with after school, or at parties, or during school, and . Welcome to r/relationship_advice.Please make sure you read our rules here. He has also started drinking and act out of character in front of a handful of my folks and its just embarrassing and frustrating and I sometimes wonder if I should have ever introduced him. No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. She proposed i then go to see Z at her place since they'd meet up there, i said i didn'd really wanted to this moment and asked why. Brother and SIL demanding we get married in the eyes of Press J to jump to the feed. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. Whenever she gets to be on her phone a little, she will text our other friend, i will learn everything she's up too, what she's doing, what ger plans are, when and if she's visiting us, her little injuries through her. Read more about QualityVote on their subreddit and any questions should be sent to the moderator mailbox. Am i exaggarating and getting offended over nothing? You can try to confront him but record him instead, if you know he's going to be an ass to you. See how they've treated other friends they might have had in the past, how they treat others besides the friend group or if they talk behind each other's back. Walk away unless you think you can actually convince them he's toxic. You need to think further from yourself. Am I tripping? Am i allowed to feel upset about this situation. My boyfriend doesnt have any of his own personal friends, and I introduced him to mine and now his only friend group is the people I grew up with. My only issue is that she will communicate through my other friend. Im Not sure what exactly Im asking for but I need advice. I am posting here on this app because i'd like a third persopn's opinion on my situation. This person, for some reason, disliked me, and enjoyed putting me down with subtle body language like rolling her eyes. You can be yourself and be hated for it. i promise you that there is no one out to get you and that the snakes you're scared of arent something that can hurt you. well maybe a Fe user? I am posting here on this app because i'd like a third persopn's opinion on my situation. , "I never did anything to him. Pam Johal, 44, switched to her fruitarian lifestyle after suffering . Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. For more information, please see our If your friends can't see it then they are egotistical douche bags. If you can, look the person in the eyes . He became really cool with this one guy who Ive known forever and Ive become close with his girl, but they have their own problems and are on and off, which is fine. For him being in your friends group well it's over now and personally shouldn't be a problem if he keeps problems to himself. The issue is, the friend we met at high school, let's call her Z, she joind the military while the rest of the two of us continue our studies iin our hometown. Sounds like a narcissist at the first glance. All bans in this subreddit are permanent. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! Look into your friend's eyes and show you're engaged. Tell him that personal relationship details shouldn't be talked with anyone. Z doesnt have as much free time anymore, we'll only see her a few times a month, and we get to talk to her even less. Need help with your relationship? But I feel like our personal issues should be between us or say one of the guys he deals with. You can make new and better friends having this lesson under your belt. Whenever she gets to visits us i will usually meet up with her because i know this little time is precious and i've just missed her, i want to spend time with her while i can and make memories. He is very well liked, I was thinking it would be best to catch him when he is alone and ask him what the fucks going on here. I get that he bonds with him and its fine if he confides in him,. So there ist this guy that basically turned an entire friend group against me by talking shit behind my back. But ofc I have no idea who she is with others so everytime I used to make a joke in our group chat or say something based on our casual interactions, she used to respond in a way like I got issues or said something weird just to create some weird reaction while being perfectly fine in our personal chats. Am i being paranoid about this? Then send it to all your friends. Doesnt mean you did anything considered wrong. No Not at all, and now Im re reading this it does sound as though Im just dogging him but I promise Im not. I never did anything to him. If i talk to people about it they say that they do not relate to what Im saying at all. Find whatever proof you need. All you can do is expose him to the rest. and our By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. The sharing of appreciation is always appreciated. Except for the one who I wrote about in the beginning, for the past couple of months he really seems to want to make me look bad. I actually have an Infj co worker somewhat similar. And he's like right down the block from me. Or do what he does. We'd like to take this time to remind users that: We do not allow any type of am I the asshole? For more information, please see our I started crushing on her in about December last year but got over it pretty quickly, in about a month. I love him dearly and I want us to work. Define what is your business, and reassess what you did wrong. "Jim" and the friend I discussed at the start always call me only if they need favors like someone to drive them somewhere. If this post fits r/entj, UPVOTE this comment!! Please ._2JU2WQDzn5pAlpxqChbxr7{height:16px;margin-right:8px;width:16px}._3E45je-29yDjfFqFcLCXyH{margin-top:16px}._13YtS_rCnVZG1ns2xaCalg{font-family:Noto Sans,Arial,sans-serif;font-size:14px;font-weight:400;line-height:18px;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex}._1m5fPZN4q3vKVg9SgU43u2{margin-top:12px}._17A-IdW3j1_fI_pN-8tMV-{display:inline-block;margin-bottom:8px;margin-right:5px}._5MIPBF8A9vXwwXFumpGqY{border-radius:20px;font-size:12px;font-weight:500;letter-spacing:0;line-height:16px;padding:3px 10px;text-transform:none}._5MIPBF8A9vXwwXFumpGqY:focus{outline:unset} your brain is making things that are not real feel real- you do not have to get in your car, but please call 911 and explain what you've told us in this post and your other . I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Anything, really anything. Don't mean to sound harsh, but what exactly has he done wrong? With one of them i've been with since elementary school, the other one we met in high school. This has happened to me once. If you have any questions, please send us a modmail. But recently the friend group I'm in has been hanging out at "Jim's" house. He treats everyone with extreme kindness but is crazy rude and disrespectful to me. And makes me seem like Im the problem, which Im not perfect but I hate my relationship problems being spread through MY friend group. Even if she did, considering our friendship group is so small the dynamic just wouldn't work, our other friend would be third-wheeling and I wouldn't want to put her through that. This is not an all-inclusive list. Confrontation doesn't work with these people. Or do what he does. Please make sure you read our rules here. But if your friends can't notice they're either naive as shit, don't give a fuck or are simply shitty people. This will ground you in the present and take you out of your chattering mind. Whenever she comes over, we have a blast! leave the entire situation and your friends sound like followers if they turn your back on you completely over gossip. Except for the one who I wrote about in the beginning, for the past couple of months he really seems to want to make me look bad. As for confrontation, why bother. Last weekend was one i will remember forever. This just pisses me off and makes me say no. Our bond is pretty strong, we have so much fun together and we et along perfectly well. This is an automatic comment that appears on all posts. Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. Welcome to r/relationship_advice. Privacy Policy. A mum-of-two who only eats fruit says her strict diet has cured her chronic arthritis leaving her feeling "like Forrest Gump". So had to get rid of you to get the attention on himself or get revenge for that instance? I dont want to distance myself from her but I feel like thats the only way to do it. I send little funny memes or tiktoks to make her smile whenever she has the time to see them but i never get a conversation. Or perhaps you said something that may have been true that he didnt like that may have hurt his ego or self image. Being attractive is a double edged sword. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. or situations/content involving minors. Don't stay in toxic friendships, it's not worth your time and energy. Then they get mad when I say no like I'm supposed to just say yes. It does not matter to whom you are referring.). What we cannot give advice on: rants, unsolicited advice, medical conditions/advice, mental illness, letters to an ex, "body counts" or number of sexual partners, legal problems, financial problems, situations involving minors, and/or abuse (violence, sexual, emotional etc). Nobody does anything without reason. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts, am I the asshole? Find whatever proof you need. You don't get a free pass. Obviously. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. (Including but not limited to: slut, bitch, whore, for the streets, etc. Please help!. Privacy Policy. You can try to confront him but record him instead, if you know he's going to be an ass to you. I don't get a text or a phonecall like that. If you ever feel jealous when your friend describes how much they love the person you hate, take a deep breath. I asked him nicely if he happened to have any close people to himself that he can hang out with because sometimes I need time with my childhood friends, but he gets defensive. Figure something out. Everyone needs someone to talk to sometimes and he happens to bond with that guy. and our And the way she interacts with others is completely different than how she does with me like we get a long great or whatever. The high road isn't easy, just walk away. yes confront him. Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules. The effects of being bad at expressing warm emotions, Press J to jump to the feed. Then send it to all your friends. I think about her so much and I have such a deep connection with her. Say he talked shit about another person in the group. Note this because it'll help you throughout life. I dont even want to fight for her to like me back, I just want these feelings to go away because it hurts so much. Unfortunately she has liked other people the entire time and its killing me because I have to give her advice and listen to her talk about her crushes and I know shell never feel that way about me. Tonight i wasn't feeling like going out, i need a little break to be with myself and only since past couple of weeks have exhasted me. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. or situations/content involving minors, Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. Is it worth it to confront him? This is not an all-inclusive list. /*# sourceMappingURL=https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/chunkCSS/TopicLinksContainer.3b33fc17a17cec1345d4_.css.map*/contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. Cookie Notice Definitely confront him, but do record it if you need proof to defend yourself cuz your friends are sure as hell not going to believe you and odds are this asshole doesn't give a fuck. My friend doesn't see the point of me compalaining over this and i am worrying that she is right, but then again my feelings are also valueble and i don't want to jst brush them off. She's awesome, we have such a good good time together, always! Perhaps you were well liked in the group that got him jealous because he gets validation for being liked. I feel like whatever I do someone ends up hurt unless I stop liking her, but I dont know how to do that. Is it possible that i've wrongly set some expectations and they are just not met? He messes with you, you mess with him. And what hell do is call somebody and talk about me in front of me, he always apologizes way after the fact, but he can be extremely petty. All of these will be removed and locked. But it's never that easy is it? In cases like these, there will be such differences between the version of him you would tell vs the image of the person they have in their minds that they would rather think you got issues / or jealous. Pretty generic advice question, I know, but Im in a small friend group of 3 people and shes one of them. This includes, but is not limited to, referring to people as alpha/beta, calling yourself or users "friend-zoned", referring to people as Chads, Tyrones, or Staceys, pick-me's, or pornsick. If this post does not fit r/entj, DOWNVOTE This comment! Whenever your friend talks about their friendship with someone you don't like, practice active listening skills. I 20M wants to stop having sex with my 19F girlfriend. Hello everyone, QualityVote is a gauge of the content posted on r/entj. And people wouldnt be able to believe you and he would be able to use this against you further and may accuse you everything he is doing as you are doing. You dont need to do anything wrong. Just minding my own business. or situations/content involving minors. Understanding your pal's friendship could help you make peace with it. I feel awful when my friend mentions she talked to Z and i got nothing from her. We'd like to take this time to remind users that: We do not allow any type of am I the asshole? I just don't get this kind of communication from her and it slightky annoys me and makes me sad, my friend tho supports i get offended easily. I know this makes him sound bad but he is a good guy, just very dependent and socially anxious, so I feel like me getting him used to everyone I know and a new environment makes him feel like hes not in his shell anymore so he clings to it. My boyfriend cant keep it up and hes the worst sexual My boyfriend and I (F 20, m 22) have been dating for my boyfriend is privileged and doesn't know it. But now whenever we get into arguments or fights that we have to step away from, he steps away and calls him!! Answer (1 of 2): Well, the obvious answer would be to just ignore them. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. But she doesn't. I don't even want to fight for her to like me back, I just want these feelings to go away because it hurts so much. bBut don't i also deserve a hi whenever she can of course, like my friend. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. But recently the friend group I'm in has been hanging out at "Jim's" house. My friend met her in her class since we were in different one, and was introduced to her. It would be different if it was one of his childhood friends that he needed to vent to, but its mine. Should I ask him to fall back? ANY. Examples include, but is not limited to: red/blue/black/purplepill, FDS, MGTOW, etc. Even if she did, considering our friendship group is so small the dynamic just wouldnt work, our other friend would be third-wheeling and I wouldnt want to put her through that. I believe i should also mention that Z got closer firstly to my friend since they were in the same class and later she got more comfortable with me, but now why don't i get this? I t could also be that, the truth is i do overthink, i can exaggarate things sometimes and get defensive but it just doesn't feel right to me. I wont ever tell her about these feelings because I feel like itd just ruin things between us but I dont know how to get myself to stop loving her. Good luck! Like your friends and feel comfortable around them? It's a surrender that you allowed him to get under your skin. Tonight she visited, which i learnt again through my friend, they made plans with a bunch of others to hang out and she asked me to join them. If he overshares or acts the fool talk to him about it. It's weird because it isn't like we aren't close, we have so much fun the two of us when she's over and she'll show it with her actions i can see she cares and loves me, but i just don't get that? But dont make scenes in front of my friends. OP- ive been where you are before and it is scary, i understand how real it all feels for you. And that makes me feel very left out. Final update: refusing to let my niece perform at my wedding. And he's like right down the block . With one of them i've been with since elementary school, the other one we met in high school. And i don't doubt that! But she doesnt. Hello you beautiful people! I told her everything i'm telling you guys right here. My friend says that she just doesn't have the time and that since i know her i shhould know how much she cares about me. The majority of them treat me extremely well, but I feel like also maybe there's stuff I'm not aware of. You may not do much without clear evidence unless its a very close friend group that everybody knows each other well. Cookie Notice I am in this friend group, me and my other two friends. People who dont stand up for you are not friends nor will they ever make good friends. All you can do is expose him to the rest. She was not in my social circle, but I was. Or at least keep it a minimum. Maybe I'm just not an entj because I don't think this is What to do about a friend who is a little needy? So you want your friends to see your bf as one of your accessories and not as a real person to be liked or disliked on his own merits (definitely NOT liked more than you), and you don't like that he lets them see more of you than the mask you usually show them. I am in this friend group, me and my other two friends. I started liking her again this September and since then Ive liked her more and more. All 4 of my original friends and I are pretty much in the same friend group and get along well. She jokingly threatened me at the beginning that no one would believe me and people like her well. Just minding my own business.".
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